As the #MeToo movement gains momentum, men need to admit culpability for our collective silence and then step up to call out abusers.
Sure, most of us would cast a frown at a man for making unwelcome advances toward a woman. We might physically intervene if it verged on an assault and pat ourselves on the back for assuming the white knight’s mantle.
But a glancing shoulder rub, a look that morphed into leering, or a suggestive comment that would never be directed at a male? With few exceptions, we waved off our brethren’s actions as trivial or placed the blame on the victim — she just needs a thicker skin.
What most males have witnessed is less than the tip of the iceberg. That’s no excuse. We knew from the guy talk that started before puberty, the problem is far more pervasive than all the highly publicized cases that have come to light. We are to blame for upholding Omerta among those bearing a penis.
Typically, the only voice heard among males after a guy verbally or physically demeans a woman comes from a like-minded buddy: ‘Boys will be boys.’ rather than the more accurate, ‘Pervs will be pervs.’
It’s so pervasive that when a man calls attention to another guy crossing the line, it becomes a news story. Mind you it was #Drake, and he stopped his concert to call out the offender. https://www.msn.com/en-au/entertainment/other/drake-stops-sydney-show-to-call-out-inappropriate-touching/ar-BBF0AQe
If Drake can decide the show can’t go on, what’s stopping the rest of us from calling out a slime ball?
The late U.S. President John F. Kennedy laid out the responsibility for all men and women to fight for right with the words:
“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.”
Time for men to say #MeToo, I will be silent no more.
via Me Too